dedicated to my
closest friends leon, rebecca, kati, tori, millie, marie, bella, and abbie .x
“forget our mothers
and past lovers forget everyone” – Bros by Wolf Alice
There is no amount of adjectives in the dictionary that I could
use to describe the importance of friendship. Personally, I know that without
friends I wouldn’t have been able to have some of the best days of my life, and
I wouldn’t have gotten through the worst days without them. There is no way to
describe what it feels like to be sharing a bed at 2am, or a path way in the
scorching heat with someone who genuinely means so much to you. There is a
certain amount of comfort in knowing that these people aren’t going to hurt you
and that you're able to drop your guard enough around these people and they're going
to accept you either way.
And I don’t see any harm in having more than one set of
friends. You are not defined by one thing such as your choice of music, or your
preferred school subject, or how you dress, you can wear jeans and hoodie one
day, and a skirt and sandals another - and why should you have to choose? The beauty
of having more than one group of friends is that you are always happy and
always have someone to turn to! I'm in three group chats and I had classes with
three different friendship groups and all it meant was that I had three times
the amount of fun. There was never a class where I felt unwelcome and that was
so important because I'm young and I was also starting at a new school.
Following on from that, there is absolutely nothing wrong or
harmful or different about having a friend of the opposite gender. Who else am I
supposed to text about how boys dry their dick after they go for a wee? It’s not
something I’d feel entirely
comfortable asking my dad. My best friend in the entire world is a boy and I am
a girl, and I guess it’s not as common as same sex friendships, but I think the
openness and honesty we have with each other makes us stronger. Any good
relationship is supposed to go through ups and downs, so when we fell out for
three months a couple of years ago, it only made us see how valuable our friendship
is. It’s so frustrating when we’re not allowed to hang out in my room because
we’re on our own. Just because I have knickers drying on my radiator doesn’t mean
he's gonna jump my bones? What do you think that he thinks I'm wearing beneath
my jeans? There’s a memorable tumblr post about this, which I have no idea how
to find, but it goes something like “I don’t want to take him to my room and
make out, I want to throw game pieces at his head when he beats me at the game”
or something and it’s the truest thing I have ever read. Chill out we are just
best friends. SO WHAT IF WE WERE MAKING OUT ANYWAY?! I trust him with more of
myself than my ex-boyfriend.
My favourite story is that two of my closest friends and I became
friends after I referenced that
mitochondria text post in an outburst one history lesson and the rest (god
forgive me for this pun) was history. And in another class, I piped up and
asked to have lunch with another two girls and we’ve been best friends ever
since. But the one thing that stumps me is how our Economics banta chat only
started several months ago, because since then we’ve been to several parties
together and been to gigs and I have no idea what we did before the chat in all
honesty.
I've had no experience of having a romantic relationship so
far in my life, so I think it just makes the bonds I make with these people
even stronger. There really is nothing that I wouldn’t do for these people and
it stuns me every day how some people who were up the road from me for five
years would turn out to be some of the people I hold closest to my heart, and
the faces I had lunch with every day would gradually fade from me. At such a
young, emotional age these things are so important because your parents don’t understand
the position you’re in because they’ve aged since then, and your siblings aren’t
your age either, so friendship becomes so pivotal to you. And at this age, we’re
all discovering new things and there is no one else apart from my friends who I’d
want to see the world for the first time with.
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